I really need to blog more often. I'm going to try to focus on one random thought at a time. Yeah, right. Here goes.
Effectual parenting has really been on my mind lately. It's something I think about frequently, what with having five kids and all. It's really hard to find a common ground with anyone when it comes to parenting. Even if two parents have similar beliefs, their parenting styles may be completely different. Even Phil and I don't always agree on the way to handle a situation (which is the main reason it's been on my mind more than normal). I've been doing some reading online and here are some of my thoughts.
As a parent, it is important to establish your leadership. YOU are in charge, and that's just the way it is. Ok, so the parent is the boss, but it's the same at any job - yes, the boss has authority, but also lots of responsibilities. Rasing kids is a huge responsibility. Don't ever take it lightly.
Also as a parent, you have a right to be obeyed. You must enforce this right, be affectionately assertive and accept the responsibility of raising your children. "Discipline" has become a bad word. But contrary to popular belief, the word "discipline" does not mean punishment. Discipline may certainly involve punishment, but it has a much more important meaning. Discipline really means confident, effective leadership. It means teaching and learning. It means parenting. I stole the following from another blog, with his permission: Teach your children to aquire - by personal example, directed practice and verbal explanation - the great virtues of sound judgment, a sense of responsibility, personal courage, self-control and magnanimity.
I'm out of time for right now, so I'll come back to this later.
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